You ever snap your fingers, and a year has gone by? Apparently we did, because my last entry was almost one year ago. For anyone remotely curious, I wanted to pass along a quick long-dragged-out recap of what’s occurred since the last entry. After tonight, updates will be much more frequent, because this has been a wild, wild ride.
Last fall was tough (see previous entries), and while we absolutely had a blast in the winter and spring, the dull ache of memories of “what could have been” lingered. We skied all over Colorado/Whistler/Big Sky, reconnected with old buddies and just enjoyed our time together knowing that biologic children would very likely not be in our future. After a Cinco-de-Mayo bachelorette fiesta in Austin, TX for one of my incredibly amazing and talented best buds (you know who you are), Justin and I felt it was time to maybe try IVF one more time.
I felt like we were attempting to restart the engine of a 1976 Mac Truck that sat for a decade (original Super Trooper reference). We wanted to get things going, but the enormity of it seemed…impractical. So once again, I interviewed a new IVF doc, decided to check in with the old IVF doc, and we made plans to figure out how to move our 10 frozen embryos around if need be. We were told to call when the next cycle began, and the IVF train would slowly start to move again. That was mid-May.
Well my next cycle was to begin the first week of June. That week came and went. I’d played this game before, only to discover we weren’t pregnant. Well a week after the week I was supposed to start, I took a pregnancy test (like I’d done plenty of times). Every time, there was a little spark of hope, but I knew a negative response would stare back at me.
This time, however, there was one extra little blue line. It was so absurdly faint, but it was something I’d never seen. There was still no excitement at this point, because although unique, we weren’t going to be one of those fortunate couples that “just got lucky.” I knew this wasn’t the way our story would happen.
But apparently it was. Three frozen embryos, four years of trying, 12 blood draws and an absurd amount of tears, something was brewing. Now before you begin the head nod with the knowing look that states, “Once you stop thinking about it, it happened,” just pause.
Part of the reason it took me so long to get back to this blog was because of the takeaways people would infer from our journey. Specifically, we do not want to be one of the tales you excitedly tell a friend, co-worker, family member or neighbor when they confide they are having a hard time conceiving. Hearing about someone else’s happy conception after couple-in-story just “relaxed, stopped thinking about it, and enjoyed one another” is utterly soul crushing. I guess it assumes there is some simple human element pointing to why she can’t conceive. Plus, you will not be the first person that has told him/her that advice.
Now that we have that out of the away, the future blogs will directly relate to how much fun this pregnancy thing is. For some this may be a walk down memory lane. For others, it may be a discussion on what’s to come. Whatever you use this for, enjoy it. There’s only one time through this ride, and if it helps someone else, we succeeded.